If your experiencing PPD, your marriage will need extra attention. Your moodiness and emotions running rampant will no doubt take a toll on your relationship. Your relationship with your husband will feel the stress of new responsibilities and strife. At times I blamed my husband when things went wrong and for not doing enough around the house to help. I often lashed out at him in frustration.
Making a marriage work in difficult times can take effort. Love doesn’t just happen. It is a commitment. If you’re having difficult times ask God for help and direction. Use this post partum experience to strengthen your relationship, and try not to let a wall develop between yourselves.
Communication - Try to keep an open line of communication without blaming or accusations. Resentment and unresolved anger can cause deep wounds. Tell your husband what you’re feeling. If you need help, be specific about what you need and what he can do to help.
Treat your husband with respect. Don’t blame your husband, remember there are changes for him to adjust to also. He may not be having and easy time either. Fathers get depressed too, especially if their wife is dealing with depression. He will feed off the tension & emotions in the atmosphere.
Forgive - If something has happened that fills you with bitterness, anger, or resentment, be forgiving.
"Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice; And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you." Ephesians 4:31 & 32.
Special Time - Set aside some special time to be together. You can ask someone to babysit, or it can even be when the baby is asleep. I often just wanted to be left alone, but being alone does just make a person feel more isolated. It feels good to talk or just cuddle. It’s good to have fun, like playing a game. It also feels good to laugh, maybe watch a funny movie together.
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